Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 18, 2014

Advice vs. Advice vs. Advice

We are bombarded by advice for every aspect of our lives. Advice for raising children, or cooking chicken or curing ingrown toenails. Seriously, there is so many well-written sagely memes, what can one person do? How to shift through all the words?

I haven't even touched on the words given for better writing or editing. Every writer's conference I go to, I come back with pages of amazing notes that appealed to me. A week or so later I go through my notebooks and write a few blog posts to help me remember what I needed to learn. I shift through the words and pick the ones that still stand out to me. I think that is how we can shift through advice: pick and choose.

Last week I opened that spoke of losing a loved one. I loved that author of the email honored her friend by sending the friend's best writing habits out into the writing world. For me, there are a few good reminders, new ideas and aha moments. I hope you enjoy them!

From Beth @ Writers etc

So today, in honor of Billie, I'm going to indulge my melancholy
and share the top dozen writing habits I learned from Billie.

1. Write early. She often told me she awoke at 3am. Since she
couldn't sleep, she'd write. While I'm never awake at that hour, I
tend to make writing my first priority when I awaken.

2. Write often. Billie always had a pen and pad nearby to jot down
ideas. I never felt the need to do this, but since cancer invaded
my life, I've found my memory isn't quite what it used to be. I
carry that pad of paper now.

3. Experiment. My goodness, that woman was fearless when it came to
trying new markets. She wrote whatever struck her fancy, sometimes
using a pen name when she experimented with subjects that
conflicted with her primary focus.

4. Be fearless. Don't be afraid to try new writing techniques. Play
with new subject matter. Approach the familiar from a new angle.
Dance with new ideas and splash them on the paper.

5. Be easy to work with. Billie understood the economics of
publishing. She submitted polished manuscripts, allowed our editors
and designers to do their work minus any drama, and didn't second
guess every step of the process. I loved working with her... and
her projects largely met with success.

6. Support local literacy programs. Billie often donated her
royalties to the local library. I always thought that was
super-lovely.

7. Embrace new technology. Billie was one of the first people I
knew who created book trailers for her Youtube channel. They're
awesome. They may not have had a gazillion views, they certainly
helped sell her books.

8. Embrace reality, but treasure fantasy. Billie knew she was
dying, yet she never mentioned it. When we spoke, we always talked
writing, plans, the future. Living in reality created her life. The
fantasies she explored gave meaning to that life. That's awesome.

9. She nurtured young talent. Waaaay back when my son was in Junior
High School, he created a silly little blog about his dog's "wacky
adventures." Of course, Billie found it and was his first
commenter, encouraging him to keep writing. That's how we met.

10. Work with various publishers. Billie had books with ebook
publishers, she published some herself, and she had traditional
book publishing contracts. I think she was wise to keep her work
diversified.

11. Learn to market. I was delighted when I was asked to critique
sales letters for a firm helping writers learn copywriting. I was
even more delighted when one of the first letters I got to critique
was written by Billie. She was always learning new writing
techniques. She wasn't afraid to stretch her wings and master some
persuasion methods as well. I admired that.

12. Lastly, Billie taught me the importance of sitting still.
Writing is a solitary profession, and that's exactly as it should
be. We're not flashy. We the quiet back ground noise that nobody
notices, until we're gone. We're the documenters of our age. We're
the quiet social commentary whispering, "Why?" "What if?" "Are you
sure?" We probably spend too much time wandering our own heads, but
that's who we are.

Ah, a life well lived is certainly something worth celebrating, eh?

My hope for you is that as you ponder Billie's life, realizing what
you just read was written by someone whose life could very likely
be cut short due to cancer (mets are fairly common), that you take
your own writing seriously. Please write today. Please write
tomorrow.

We live in an age when we need thoughtful communicators more than
ever before. After all, writing isn't a profession. It's who we
are. And no matter how hard you try to "fit in" with polite
society, the fact that you are a writer will never change.

Onward and upward,

Beth



 Enjoy a little sunshine today :)


Monday, January 16, 2012

Sometimes planning is just stalling


"You were made to create something. Something important. And sometimes, planning is just stalling. So get on with it." 
 Jeff Goins

I read a post last week that I've been mulling over and want to share with you.

Something you need to know about me first: I'm a thrower-awayer. I LOVE garbage day when all the refuse leaves my house and for a few precious moments the trash clutter is gone. 
I like drawers and doors shut. 
I like even numbers ($220 instead of $227). 
If a shampoo bottle is almost empty I either dump the rest into another bottle or throw it away. It's not worth my time to shakeshakeshake it until the last drop slithers out. (Honestly, I don't think the one penny I'm saving by using the last drop is worth my time either.)

So goals work for me. Nice, clean words on lined paper are a road marker to point me in the direction I need or want to go. When I've completed the task, I can cross it off my list! Aw! Sweetness!
Sometimes I get anxious when a goal is on my list too long. I have to do it now! Get 'er done!
*Blushes* And sometimes I cheat. I make simple goals so they're easier to check off.  Somehow I feel cheated. 

Last week I read Jeff's post: On Scheming: Planning, Decisions, and Accidental Accomplishments 
I had a personal epiphany. An uncomfortable epiphany for someone who likes straight edges, check lists and rounded numbers.

Here is the post in a nutshell (from one of Jeff's friends):  "It's far more difficult to resist the fear to plan instead of act."
Read it again. I'll wait. 
That. Is. Me.
I have the plans, the goals, the drive. But am I putting them into action?
Writing is not a one time goal. The goal to write so many words a day can get in the way of my writing. I stress about checking it off. Then my creativity is at a minimum. Oh! How my life would be complete if I could write a book in one day!

What happens if every day I decide to write? And the next day I decide to write? And the next? Soon I have a complete manuscript and writing becomes a HABIT.
A habit
Think about the difference between a habit and a goal. To me, a habit is something I do without thinking about it. A goal is something always on my mind, almost dictating the course of my day.

Here's another quote of Jeff's I liked: 
"What I did yesterday doesn't carry over to tomorrow. I have to start all over again. I can't rest in the security of goals; I have to embrace the present. Otherwise, I miss my chance to do what needs to be done today. So I try to keep showing up. And without realizing it, I'm further along in the process than I thought I'd be. This is the beauty of a goal-less life: if you focus on habits, you may end up doing more than you thought was possible. Not because of a plan. Because of passion and decision."

It's almost freeing to me to make a habit instead of stressing about breaking my New Year's Resolutions. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying goals are bad. For me I've come to realize my goals are not the same as my check off list.
Maybe I'll finally learn to enjoy the journey. That's the point, isn't it?

Life is about how you get there, not the finish line. (Seriously, would you want your gondolier to race to the end of your ride or would you enjoy the journey?)

What about you? What are your thoughts?

P.S.
One last quote to send you off on an awesome week:
"If you're already struggling with meeting your goals for the new year, try this: start something. And keep starting. Every day. Follow your passion. Be decisive. Create new habits. Maybe you'll get to where you want to be faster than you expected."

Get there my friends.

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